September 28, 2021
4. Fears
I was never aware that there are so many things to be afraid of...
Strange thing is, that I have been afraid of things I even didn't know
They just became a sort of normal, just a part of my life
They were so included, I even didn't recognize them as fears anymore
But they came along during the process of innerhealing...
Fear for people
The first I could remember was that I was afraid for the angry reactions of my mother.
Her condemnation, her rejection
with an angry face, very angry eyes and an angry voice
And this fear has been growing and growing towards other people
I was afraid of everybody who could be able to possibly give some rejection
Fear for the insects that can sting you, especially the wasp and the bee
but even the mosquito
Actually I love insects, they are beautiful
But this stinging ones... yeah, they are beautiful too...
but the results of their action... terrible!
My body sort of overreacted
That was the reason I was so afraid of this little stinging animals
The strange thing was that that fear also spread to other little ones, like beetles and spiders
even those super little flies, coming from potting soil
Fear for the real dangerous animals
Like snakes, lions, crocodiles
Strange to be afraid of animals that don't live in my country...
Fear for violence in movies
too exciting movies
I often walked away during watching!
The same in books, but not that extreme
In reading this sort of books I only took a little break
Fear for violence in reality
wherever in the world
presentated by journalists
or the possibility of whatever catastrophe to come here
what if...???
Fear for sickness
Reading articles, seeing movies or documentaries about whatever sickness... was difficult
I was afraid of getting the same
This fear for sickness was so strong, that it felt like nothing was allowed to be wrong in my body
Even pimples, little aches, common cold
Ow, all that stuff isn't nice, of course not, but I was afraid of it, and that's not okay!
Fear for being extremely tired
I have been tired from my teenage-time
It only became worse
It looked like waves, sometimes little better, sometimes worse
I was afraid of becoming so exhausted I would loose life...
Fear for traffic-situations
My soulmate is a very good driver, but...
how many times did I step on the brake (that wasn't even there for the passenger seat)
how many times I warned him for pedestrians, cyclists, other cars
and felt that deep fear...
Fear for fire
That seems to be normal, but...
That fear was noticeable in all kinds of little things
burning candles, cooking food, strange smells
I was very alert, overreacting
Fear to lose control
To survive I had learned to control myself
I was afraid to forget what I had to do...
what would people say about that??
what would happen??
So I always made lists, to be able to check
and that controlled my life
Fear for becoming emotional
That felt like loosing control too
Well... I had learned not to cry, not to scream, not to get angry, even not to show gladness!
So badly, I couldn't feel them anymore
But sometimes my emotions,
caused by emotional wounds,
deeply hidden and trapped,
wanted to peep out...
Scary!!!
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Results of the healing process
Before I tell you about the result...
About the healing process itself
I will tell you in "chapter 8"
But now the results of the process for the subject "fear"
Fear for people
I feel more strongly than ever that I am who I am
I don't only know, but I also FEEL who I am
I don't need agreement and afformation anymore to accept, to love myself
I may have my own opinion, my own way of life
And when people have other ideas or ways, that's no threat anymore
I'm no longer afraid of what whoever can think or say
Extreme reactions of rejection and condemnation can touch me a moment...
but only that moment
After that moment it's gone!
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